The books and CD's below have been very helpful in the therapy process. If you click on them you will be taken to Amazon.com for a complete description and reviews.
Even though Boundaries and The Dance of Anger seem more for women, they are really appropriate for men, as well. This helps in understanding how healthy boundaries develop--or fail to develop--and is a guide to recognizing when boundaries are being crossed.
The Dance of Anger - A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Initimate Relationships by Harriet Goldhor Lerner PhD (1985)
Trapped in the Mirror is very helpful in understanding the patterns set in motion by narcissistic parents which can be very freeing.
Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self by Elan Golomb (Mar 28, 1995)
I Don't Want to Talk About It is particularly good to help recognize dysfunctional coping strategies men use to avoid dealing with legitimate pain and how to overcome those tendencies. Terrence Real's three books mentioned here are all excellent in growing healthy relationships.
I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real (Mar 2, 1998)
Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions: Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Help YourChild Regulate Emotional...
The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind
1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 by Thomas W. Phelan (Oct 1, 2010)
Skills for Helping You Manage Mood...
Don't Let Your Emotions Run Your Life for Teens: Dialectical Behavior Therapy